Life without cell phones

I went to the Santana/Rod Stewart concert last week and broke my phone.  (We will get to the weird of that concert in my next Yolo post)  I was a dancing fool and my *cough* *cough* 500 dollar phone was in my back pocket, slid out and the screen smashed on the concrete.  Ouch!  I had an LG and apparently when you break the screen of those they never work again.  I wish someone had told me that geez.  Anyway I could see that I had a million messages,emails and phone calls but couldn't get in my phone.  My alarm went off and I couldn't get it to stop so it went off every 5 minutes until I just threw it away.

I was without a phone for 16 hours and I thought I was going to die.  No actually I didn't.  I was relieved.  I didn't have to respond to anyone, I didn't check my facebook or instagram 5 million times or pinterest.  I didn't have to make sure I had my phone with me all day long you know...just in case. I didn't keep checking it just in case I didn't hear it. I didn't feel tied to a device.  Then I kept thinking when did I get so ridiculously addicted to this thing?

Then I started remembering back when there weren't cell phones.  What a simple life that was.

We had to get ahold of people with a home phone.  We didn't have Facebook to know what people are up to.  If you wanted to know what someone was doing you would go to their house or call them at home.  You didn't need Facebook to tell you anything.  If you didn't know, you just didn't know. 

I don't know about you but I LOVE text messaging.  Love it.  I absolutely hate talking on the phone so when they came out with texting I was in Heaven.  The problem is it's so lazy and impersonal.  What did we do before? Oh that's right wrote letters or notes.  That was so much more fun don't you think?

From now on I am making a better effort to stay off my phone and live in the moment.  It's so easy to spend hours on it not really paying attention to anything around but I want to live my life rather than watch everyone else's.

What's something you miss about pre-cell phone life??

YOLO #2

Yes all my post are going to be Yolo with a number for the rest of the summer haha

Can you believe summer is almost over already? Marcus starts school in 3 weeks.  Speaking of that we told him he was going to have to get a job to pay for his school supplies.  It's ridiculous the things they need.  Earphones?? I mean really.  Next they are going to need individual laptops in 6th grade.

Anyway I'm going to overload you with pictures of all the fun I've been having

 

I love lilies and this is the first time I was able to grow one! It just happens to be my favorite color too:)

 

I was in a crafting mood.

We went jet skiing for my first time! What a blast!

And I'm wearing a bikini for the first time in my life!

I had a Mexican BBQ for my family.  Lots of good food, ladderball, water balloon fight, karaoke and lots of tequila.  You want to come over I know.

My cute grandma

My honey bought me some beautiful sunflowers

My tomato plants, looks like a jungle. I have gotten 4 cherry tomatoes so far, yum

I went to Cheyenne Frontier Days with my mom, her boyfriend and my boyfriend.  We got to see Lady Antebellum and my all time favorite country singer Clay Walker.  My boyfriend laughs at me because I always tell him that Clay and I have been through a lot in my life.  Are there any other people out there like me that truly feel music and take it with me whatever happens in life? Probably just me lol

Anyway we drank and had a great time!  We even slept in tents.  The whole night I had to keep directing everyone so we would be on time for the concert and so they told me I was bossy.  Then when the lady at Starbucks asked what my name was they told her Miss Bossy haha

 Wednesday we went to Red Rocks to see Dierks Bentley and Chris Young.  It was a blast but seriously I'm too old for weekday concerts.

 

This weekend is all about rest and relaxation....I wish. Brunches, cleaning and working boo! I can sleep when I'm dead I guess!! (Yes I'm writing this Friday and posting Monday)

 

How was everyone's weekend? Anybody else going concert crazy?

 

 

City Vs. Country

It's funny how until you experience living in a different area than you grew up how you can't truly appreciate it.  I grew up in the city.  It was 10 minutes to anywhere I want to go.  My ex and I decided on a crazy whim that we wanted to raise our kids in the country.  It was about 45 minutes from where I grew up but might as well have been a whole different world.  I moved back to the city about a month and a half ago and I realized there are so many things I'm loving but there are so many things I miss.

City..............

*I love being close to everything.

*I only have to fill my gas tank every 2 weeks instead of twice a week or more.

*I love being close to my friends and family.  My grandma lives 6 blocks away!

*I can now go to parties and family get togethers without preparing hours ahead of time.

That's it lol

Country....

*Those sunsets.....I miss those like crazy

*The stars

*The wide open skies

*The sunflowers

*No stoplights

*The traffic

*The grocery store.  I have gone to 5 different grocery stores where I live now and I hate how they are laid out.

*The fresh air

Such a difference!  I'm a country girl for sure!

Sugar Detox

I'm sure you all have seen The Four Fit Sisters on Instagram.  Marta does a 14 day sugar detox.  I decided to try it.  With my fibromyalgia sugar causes me to have flare ups and I am a serious sugar addict. When I say addict I mean that I binge sugar.  I can't just have one piece of chocolate....I will have 10. I thought it would be nice to be detoxed and slowly add things in to see what hurt me and what was ok.  

The first 5 days was seriously rough.  I had the worst headache and was sick.  It's funny that sugar is just like a drug.  I was literaly having withdrawals from it.  After those 5 days though I have never felt better.

We couldn't have anything, no really.  Meat, veggies, berries only, almond butter, eggs, nuts, almond milk, coconut milk, coconut sugar, cocoa powder.  It was boring as hell but also felt good.  You have to get creative with it.  Marta gave us a lot of meal options.  I ate a ton of avocado and I don't even like avocado but I grew to like it because what else was I going to eat?

I learned so much about food and how terrible almost everything is for you, even beans.  I also learned that sugar is in EVERYTHING.  EVERYTHING even meat, added in.  I also learned how bad wheat is for you and turkey bacon...WHAT?! I thought that shit was supposed to be good for you.  Nope.  Did you know all fruits except berries actually make you crave sugar? Now you do.  My mind has been blown.

I lost 7 pounds on the detox.  I didn't work out one time either.  I reached a weight that I haven't been since middle school.  It was crazy.

Then it was over and I thought oh a little sugar here and there wasn't going to hurt.  Wrong!  I binged for 3 days.  I'm mad at myself and decided I may need a permanent sugar detox.  How sad but unless I constantly want to be in pain it's a must!

Anyone else have a sugar addiction?

Yolo

There isn't enough time in the day for all the things I wish I could do.  I am an overachiever, I will work all day cleaning 6 houses then come home make dinner, clean, go shopping, etc... Not bragging just saying I NEVER stop.  My boyfriend tells me all the time to just stop and sit down.

I look at my parents and they are the exact same way.  They never sit.  I probably won't start any time soon either.  Anyway that brings to me to why I haven't blogged.  I decided this summer I was going to do a lot of things...fun things.  You only live once right? I hate Yolo but it was appropriate for this post!

Here's a little of what I've been doing...

 

My new boyfriend.  He's Nicole's nephew and the cutest kid and he loves to kiss me:)

 

It was Nicole's niece's birthday party and my darling niece dove into the pool with her clothes on

Nicole and I went with my mom and her boyfriend to see Jake Owen.  I have been to ALOT of concerts and he was in my top 5.  He put on such a good show that we never wanted it to end and he also went for 3 hours!

We live by a lake now....so convenient to wear these kids out

I got to see my cousin that I haven't seen in 6 years and her kids!!

and of course the Fourth of July! Look at that face!

Love him!

I decided to decorate my house.

I'm REALLY impatient.  I can't decorate my house a little at a time I want it done all at once.  Don't mind all the crap on the entertainment center this was just a start.

 My sister and I got crafty for Father's Day. Yes the words are crooked...almost gave me a heart attack but my sister said it gives it character and my dad loved it so it's a win.

I love to make gifts instead of buy them. This was for Marcus' Dad's wedding.

My little ring bearer.  And yes I was invited!  We have a cool relationship!

I went to my friend's housewarming party.  I hadn't seen her in 3 years.  She lost a baby when Marcus was a year old and I was there the whole time with her and then 3 years ago she was there with me so after 3 years there were lots of tears and then lots of fun.

My friend Dez's 30th surprise birthday party.  Just so you know the last three were in one day...

Brunch and mimosas with Jaclyn!

 

 

The next two weeks will be fun too.  Jet skiing, family BBQ, Cheyenne Frontier Days to see Lady Antebellum and Clay Walker, then Dierks Bentley.  Lots of pictures to come!

 

How is everyone? Having a fun summer?



Divorce

The dreaded D word.  Some of you know I got married last June, we split up in November then were officially divorced in April.  That marriage was the worst decision of my life and the divorce was the best.

We all do crazy, fly by the seat of our pants things right?  Well until then I never had.  I am a planner by nature.  I always hesitated when it came to things, questioned everything, made pros and cons lists, etc...  This should have told me that doing something that was completely opposite of who I am is a bad, bad idea.

I met him in April of last year, yes April.  He was the Uncle of one of Marcus' friends.  We had both just been through a break up.  He asked for my number and we ended up talking on the phone every night for 5 or 6 hours.  We really got to know each other or so I thought. 

He wanted all the same things as me. He had 2 teenage girls so we wanted to make sure that everything was right between his girls and Marcus.  Everyone got along and everything was great.  He was a hard worker, treated me great, took care of his girls and treated Marcus great.  He promised that if he had to he would work 3 jobs to make sure we got the bills paid.  You get the idea.

We got married In June but didn't actually live together until August.  Between June and August things were wonderful.  We enjoyed each other and the kids.  We were so excited to all move in together.

About 3 weeks into moving in together was my birthday.  I ended up crying the whole day, he made my day miserable.  He was super jealous of my ex boyfriend (McKennon's Dad).  Him and I were friends and I had told my husband that and he was ok with it.  Turns out he wasn't.  I wasn't willing to give up that friendship because of how much we had been through together.  A man that was secure with himself should have understood that. Anyway my ex had texted me with Happy Birthday and I said Thank you and that was all it took to make him ruin my day.

It just got worse from there.  He turned extremely controlling.  He would freak out on me for things like falling asleep on the couch, which I do almost nightly.  We couldn't have a productive argument because he would lock me in a room with him for hours until I finally just told him whatever he wanted to hear.  Torture was what that was.  I went to a baseball game with some friends of mine and he freaked out.  From the beginning I told him I needed to be able to be myself and have friend time.  He didn't like that.

My final straw was when he actually called me ex to yell at him and tell him to leave me alone.  My ex hadn't called or texted in months.  When he got off the phone with him he told me that I needed to get over my son in order to get over my ex.  That broke my heart.  There is no getting over my son and I couldn't be married to someone so heartless.

I tried to make it work until I was blue.  I stopped one day and realized I was paying all the bills.  ALL of them.  There were 6 people living in my house.  He wasn't paying anything even though he had promised.  I was miserable.  I would go for drives after work just so I didn't have to go home and it wasn't until I saw how horrible he was treating Marcus that I couldn't take it anymore.

I finally told him I was done at the beginning of November and he would not leave, WOULD NOT.  I finally had to kick him out at the beginning of December.  So for a whole month I had to live with this crazy person. 

Lesson learned.  Never do anything opposite of who you are and never allow someone to take away who you are.

I wanted my first marriage to be my only marriage but I'm thankful I made that mistake because now I can really appreciate someone else.

My boyfriend and I have decided we are going to get married...someday.  Not any time soon.  We are enjoying what we have and aren't in any hurry.  I'm not sure that relationship would have happened if not for me getting married and then divorced.  Everything happens for a reason and now life is good:)

Disneyworld!

Disneyworld is an experience.  I learned so many things from it.  We had a goodtime....some of it.  I seriously need like 2 weeks there to go on all the rides, see all the shows, go to Universal Studios, go to the beach...I'm sure there are more but you get the idea.  I also would like to go by myself or with someone that might enjoy taking their time with me! *Cough Cough Ang Cough* haha  There were just so many things I wanted to see or experiences I wanted to see (The American Idol Experience) that my dad or Marcus would never do. 

So things I learned:

*NEVER take a 2 year old!! Just don't do it.  It's hot and tiring and they get cranky.  Plus they can't go on most of the rides because they are too short.  There is a lot of walking even if you rent a stroller and a lot of carrying the 2 year old.  There were some great moments that made it worth it but otherwise wait. Don't even get me started on the 3 1/2 hour plane ride....

*There is a Disney app...yes there is an app for that.  I didn't actually care to check it out until Day 3....stupid mistake.  You can literally do everything with this, make reservations, get fast passes, check wait times of rides and make a plan.  I like plans.  It made our last day so much better and we got to meet Mickey.  Who talked by the way, it was creepy.

*Do not go on the River Rapids at Animal Kingdom and expect to dry.  I wore jeans shorts and couldn't pee the rest of the day because I couldn't get those suckers off.  Ok so wear something that dries fast because it's a blast.  I happened to sit in the hot seat so while everyone else got cooled off I got drenched! 

*Animal Kingdom was my favorite.  They have Africa, Asia, Dinosaur Land and Discovery Island.  In Africa they have a safari ride that is just what it says.  We were a little scared when we discovered that there were no fences.  The animals just walked right up to the jeep.  It was the best part of the trip. 

Animal Kingdom was spread out enough you didn't feel suffocated and everything was shaded.  Thank god because it was hot as shit.

*I wasn't that impressed with Hollywood Studios.  There was some cool things to look at and some fun rides but when I looked at the map it was mostly food places.  Everything was asphalt so it was also miserable.  How do you people in the east and south deal with that humidity? blah.

Marcus and I went on the tower of terror and that was fun!

Hollywood Studios did have some really cool buildings to look at and we went to a show about Walt Disney and The Movie Experience.  I love history so these excited me lol

*Fast Passes.  Ang had mentioned them to me but I wasn't quite sure what they were until the second day.  You get 3 a day where you basically get to go in a shorter line for certain rides.  This was a lifesaver that last day with my niece.

* Magic Kingdom.  This is a little kids dream.  I had a plan for that day so we didn't get to wander around and check things out. We went on the Haunted Mansion ride where my niece freaked out and then at the end was waving to the scary people. Crazy kid.  We also went on the Buzz Lightyear ride where you get to shoot targets the whole way through.  I knew my dad and Marcus would enjoy that because they like to shoot things.  Ok so do I. We ate lunch at the Crystal Palace where we got to see Winnie The Pooh, Tigger, Eeyore and Piglet. Then finally we met Mickey and then we were out.

Eeyore is my favorite so I HAD to be in the picture

I almost forgot they met Daisy.

We spent every evening swimming and drinking (OK I did).  It seemed to get hottest around 4 or 5 so that's when we hit the swimming pool.

I was completely fascinated by the bamboo that grew everywhere

Anyone else really love pictures of people from behind?  I love it.  Caught in the moment.

All in all it was a fun experience.  We will probably go back some day when my niece is older and we can stay longer.

Side note: As much as I hated the humidity, my body never felt better.  The moment we landed in Colorado I was in pain.  Guess I need to move to somewhere tropical:)